"MYTH NUMBER FOUR: If an Annulment is Granted the Children will be Illegitimate"
"The truth is that an ecclesiastical annulment is concerned only with the spouses, and not the children. An annulment has no effect at all on the legitimacy of children, or other arrangements regarding children, such as custody or support. These are all concerns of the civil law, and an ecclesiastical annulment has absolutely no effects under civil law. It is a myth that granting an annulment makes the children illegitimate."
Why is it that anti-Catholics are so angry and bitter that they must bring children into the argument? After all, Jesus did say, "Suffer not the children to come unto Me." Why? Because He would hold them responsible for their parents guilt? I don't think so. In fact, He performed many of His miracles just to prove this erroneous notion, held by many Jews, wrong. Why else would He say, "Your sins are forgiven" to the lame man who then walked. Being born crippled or blind was seen as punishment for the parents' sins. Jesus proved that wrong.
Now if children are born to parents who later decide that marriage was a mistake--whether their marriage was annulled and/or they divorced--the children are not to blame. Not only is the notion that these children are illegitimate ridiculous, it flies in the face of Jesus' love and compassion for all children. No child is considered illegitimate by His Church. They are children of God on equal ground with you and me, as they should be.
"Does annulment make our children illegitimate?""No — children of a marriage that's determined to be invalid by a Catholic annulment, are still legitimate. (Code of Canon Law, canon 1137) When a couple marries, they assume the marriage is valid and was entered into in good faith. Children conceived under this assumption of a valid marriage, are considered to be legitimate. This fact does not change even if the marriage is later found to be not valid.""In the United States, Catholic annulment does not affect any state civil laws. It is unrelated to civil concerns such as illegitimacy, child custody, alimony, visitation rights, or division of property." http://www.beginningcatholic.com/catholic-annulment.htmlMaybe people in the church had a different idea about this at one time, but that is not true any more. I believe we have a better perspective on Christ's love and compassion for humans and their frailty. We should not be so hard on our fellow Christians. Gone are the days of making children feel ashamed because their parents didn't or wouldn't do the right thing.****
15 People even brought babies to him, for him to touch them; but when the disciples saw this they scolded them.
16 But Jesus called the children to him and said, 'Let the little children come to me, and do not stop them; for it is to such as these that the kingdom of God belongs.17 In truth I tell you, anyone who does not welcome the kingdom of God like a little child will never enter it.' Luke 18:15-17****
13 Then people brought little children to him, for him to lay his hands on them and pray. The disciples scolded them,
14 but Jesus said, 'Let the little children alone, and do not stop them from coming to me; for it is to such as these that the kingdom of Heaven belongs.'15 Then he laid his hands on them and went on his way. Matt. 19:13-15